WHEN THE GIRLS TALK
one situation in KLCC park.
A girl are telling bf her problem that she faced with her friends.
Aliyah : Ali, i feel so sad... My bestfriend kutuk i belakang i.. She told everyone that i dapat pointer teruk last semester. I can believe she do that! Die kawan baik sendiri. Kenapa die kutuk i belakang i.. :(
Ali : OMG! really? teruk nye die. Why dont you jumpe die and marah die . If i jadi you, i dah putus kawan . Or you slow talk la dgn die tanya knpa buat U macam ni..
Aliyah : U cakap senang lah. now , kawan i lain suma xnak kawan i dah..
Ali : Chill la sayang.. next sem buat betul2 ye.
Aliyah : YOU DONT GET IT DONT YOU??? MY LIFE IS OVER, AND NOW YOU SURUH I CHILL! YOU SO HEARTLESS!!
Ali : ** seriously, i was trying to help.. :(
Sedar tak? When a girl talks about their problem, a guys selalu interupt her and offer solution. He thinks she will feel much better when she has a solution. That is a bad move my friends . She only want to talk and ignores his solution. Kalo die x ignore pon, die akan angguk kejap and continued storying . That is guys. Guys dont want to talk about it, they want to solve it .
But for girls, talking is the way to release the stress. Later that day , Alliyah call her bestfriend and telling her problem, its non stop talking giving her a full details. And guess what? When Aliyah talk, her bestfriend just replied "really?" , "OMG" , "why?" , " i cant believe she do that" , "lagi?" . And that replied, gonna make Aliyah talk more. Finally, Aliyah will feel better and dah x rasa sedih lagi. She thanks to her friend sebab dengar masalah dia, eventhough the problem are not solved.
"When you are dealing with an upset girls, DO NOT offer solution . Just show her you are listening. Make a body language that you are sympathise and empathise to her problem. "
Guys are always a problem solver, they usually think about the solution and than they'll talk. BUT in some situation, if you want to make yourself useful . Hearing would be the best. :)
P/s : I never give solution cuz my solution are always wrong. haha -_-'