Kau kenal sorang gadis. You hit it off pretty well. Korang start being friends. You kinda feel that she kinda has a thing for you, but you’re too scared to make a move. Kau ada peluang to take the relationship to the next level, but you’re still too scared so you don’t do anything. Masa berlalu . You’re still friends. You have a great time whenever you’re together, dan menjadi sangat rapat. When you FINALLY do get the courage to say or do something , i mean to confess , she delivers the ultimate blow: “I just want to be friends.”
Dang ! Welcome to friendzone !
Is there any hope for you? Fortunately, the answer is “YES!”
Kebanyakkan lelaki , lari dari friend zone usually means that you had a chance at the beginning, but then somehow, some way, for some reason or the other, YOU BLEW IT. You took a wrong turn somewhere, and ended up in the dreaded friend zone forever.
So how to escape?
1.) Accept the reality of the situation.
Jangan merayu dan melutu for her to give you a chance. She made a conscious decision to not be anything more than friends with you, and so x kira banyak mana la kau merayu, she will not change her mind. Instead, we’re going to approach the situation by working on her irrational and illogical side. Don’t withdraw yourself, but you’ll do much better if you start putting less focus on her and more focus on you at this stage of the process.
2.) Improve yourself.
Tak ada satu orang pun dalam dunia ni yang x boleh buat self-improvement. Come on guys, start lifting weights. Start eating healthy. Learn something new seperti music. pergi buat rambut yang comel comel. Try out some sports. Get that adrenaline pumping through your veins. Trust me, you’ll feel much better about yourself and gain more self-confidence, and you’ll look better in the process (if you decide to work out).
3.) Have fun with other people.
If you are single, korang x boleh focus on just one person , EVER. Start meeting some people. Your friends have friends who have friends of their own. pergi masuk persatuan or something and socialize . Meet girls and learn how to flirt well. Ironically, the more women you meet, the better you will do with the girl you’re trying to escape the friend zone with. The more jealous she gets, the better.
4.) Ask her for a Date.
Ajak dia pergi date berdua. If she’s hesitant to go out with you start asking her out on Non-Dates. A Non-Date is basically a get-together where you ask her to accompany you doing something that you would do anyway. Something like picking up some books, buying some new clothes, etc. Belanja la dia kadang kadang :)
5.) Flirt with her.
kebanyakkan guys x dapat keluar dari friendzone sebab dorang x realize that it’s a matter of sexual attraction . So start teasing her playfully. Start with playful compliments until you can eventually move on to flirting that’s more sexual in nature. let me teach you my fav line :D
Sometime, I notice that she put on some perfume. I 'll said “ You smell too good , You cannot wear that perfume around me any more, because I’m afraid that I won’t be able to hold control myself and do something BAD.”
6.) Touch her !
Kalau kau x buat semua move before, kau x boleh tetiba terus sentuh okay:D . okay like this : Start slow with casual touches on the arm, tepuk tepuk bahu ke, picit perut dia, or checking fingernail. kalau tengah jungle tracking, hulur lah tangan tolong dia. . Then graduate to holding hands or hugs.
7.) Make your move. It all depend on you bro.
If you do steps 5-7 well enough, you will find that you’ll be gradually escalating. Your flirting becomes more sexual by nature, she starts being touchier with you, and your dates become more serious. By the time that this happens, you have done well. To accomplish your mission of , yang terakhir. , you MUST make your move. Sebab dah jadi lumrah, perempuan xkan start dulu. There is no way in hell that she is going to be making the first move, but she will be giving you hints that it’s okay to do something now. Do not be a fool and miss this second chance! When opportunity knocks, open the door and pounce on it.
And that’s it! I know it’s VERY simplified, but that’s the basic process that you must follow from beginning to end if you want to know how to get out of the friend zone. Take it slow, and kadang kadang took more heartbreaks to finally figure it out. But if its dont work. simply, he is not the girl for you :)
P/s : Goodluck broooooo :)